You’re going on a date with a man whom you genuinely like! You’re hoping that he is as attracted to you as you are to him. We hope so, too…that’s what we call a win-win. But stop for a moment and enjoy the feeling. Sexiness, after all, is about anticipation…so keep the concept of anticipation in the back of your mind as you dress for your evening out. And here are a few other tips on how to dress sexy and have fun while you’re at it.
Emphasize your best features. “But all your features are good,” you say? Choose just one (with any luck, he’ll get to see the others later), be it your upper arms, decolletage, legs, waist or face. Dress in clothing in such a way as to draw attention to your best feature. For example, a woman who is thick on the bottom but bodacious on the top will do better in a long skirt and body-hugging bodice that draws the eye upward to lass bambas. By highlighting just one feature with your sexy attire, you’ll know that you’re not going over the top.
Leave something to the imagination. Just as you don’t want to be hitting grand slams out of the ballpark on your first date, so you don’t want to be showing off all of your assets at once. Titillate (not literally!), tantalize, and let his imagination fill in the blanks (men have been filling in the blanks for much of their lives…believe me, they are up to the task). You can wear sexy womens clothing that still leaves something to the imagination. You are providing visual cues and clues as to what else awaits him. Don’t underestimate the power of his imagination.
Stay on top of the trends. Just by staying in touch with current fashion trends, you demonstrate a certain degree of sophistication. When your date first sees you enter the room, you don’t want him to think to himself, “Oh my God, she walked straight out of the seventies.” While no one expects you to follow the latest trends straight off the catwalks of Milan, they do expect to see you in a low-rise pant and chunky heel rather than baggies and clogs. Best of all, display your creativity, sexy style and originality by putting your own spin on the latest trends.
Consider the fabric. You want him to want to touch you, right? Wear fabrics with a nice feel to them that practically invite his touch. Think softand silky, not rigid or starched. Also consider the flow of the fabric as you move. Does it gently swish with your sway? Will your dress pouf just a bit as you walk down the stairs? Perfect. A cone bra under a starched oxford? No. Silk shirt with rayon blend skirt? Yes.
Just because you’re wearing high heels doesnt mean you’re hot. Have you seen those women stuffed into high heels that are far too high and narrow for them? Don’t do it. Footwear is an important part of the overall image you present. Think of what you wear on your feet as one of the key tone-setters for your ensemble. These sexy shoes can be a hit or a miss. Say you’re wearing a skirt that is mid-thigh, with a modest long-sleeve blouse. High heels take the outfit in one direction and flats in another…perhaps a middle-of-the-road heel leaves some room for interpretation? (And don’t even think about thigh-high boots unless your “date” is an audition at the local strip club.)
Stay this side of slutty. Slutty is too much, too fast, too soon. Stay as far away from these descriptors in the wardrobe department as you do in your behavior, and you’ll be fine. This means that just a hint of that hollow between your breasts is sexier than a no-holds-barred cleavage cavalcade. And don’t forget that collarbones can be just as sexy as cleavage……when framed properly.
